To The Girl Who Has Never Been Pursued

First and foremost, let me say this: I feel ya, girl.

I know what it’s like. You watch your friends go out on dates    and you are happy for them, no doubt   but then, there you are, alone again. You try to get your mind off of it, but it pops right back up with every distraction you turn to. You smile as your friends tell you about their Friday night plans and you always double-tap their Instagrams about their significant others. But inside, your mind is engaged in an entirely different dialogue.

Why hasn’t anyone ever pursued me?  What is it about me that seems to repel potential suitors? Why do some people seem to have it all while I sit alone?

I’m not about to tell you that it’s because God has something better in store for your future and that He just isn’t ready to share it with you yet. Because, while I believe that God does have better things in store for us, I think that the message we need to hear in these moments of self-doubt is something radically different than what we are groomed to hear.

The thing that I need to hear most in these moments? I need to hear that God has already heard my criesHe already knows that I’m alone in my room on a Friday night, and He already knows that about you, too.

It’s not that we should stop the conversation with God…it’s just that we need to recognize that God isn’t ignoring us.

It took God 42 generations of people to reach the Messiah. The world was crying out for its Savior, surely at times thinking that He had forgotten them, but God was already working on it. He heard the cries of his children long before they even knew they were going to cry out, and he hears you, too.

God’s timeline is not like ours. After all, He is not bound by our linear worldview. While He is fully aware of the specific desires you have (such as getting married by 23…), it doesn’t always mean that those desires will be fulfilled in our time.

“Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” -Psalm 37:4

To my fellow impatient people, I want to offer a new way of seeing this verse in the context of our season of waiting.

This statement is one cohesive unit. It does not say “Take delight in the Lord, and even if you don’t, He will give you the desires of your heart.”

These events work together. In taking delight in the Lord, He will give you the desires of your heart.

The desire to have a relationship is holy. You are not wrong for wishing you were in a relationship. But in this time of singleness (I’m right there with you), I challenge you to discover what it means to take delight in the Lord.

Pray for new people. Start conversations that you wouldn’t normally have. Seek out new friendships and cultivate old ones. Don’t sit idle while you wait. Get out there and discover Christ in a whole new way. You won’t regret it, and when you (and I) look back one day, all of this will make just a little bit more sense.

♥ Nikki